Your Relationship Coach Blog
How different abuse can look
This is a difficult subject to write about. Sadly, abusive behaviour within relationships is more common than we like to imagine, and it includes both physical and psychological abuse. The bottom line is that abusive behaviour within a relationship is not OK. As human...
Chillaxing Envy
I love the way my eldest son is able to ‘chillax’. I particularly appreciate the care he takes in setting things up with a comfy beanbag or chair, probably a drink and possibly a snack if he’s allowed, so he can have maximum pleasure and enjoy ‘his’ time. I am also...
Freedom 9.9 – Reboot yourself
I was having a rare wander round my connections in LinkedIn and came across a woman who I had not been in touch with for years, but had always rated. I was just in a different place to her.. turns out we're now very much on the same page and I was stunned by her Ted...
Father’s Day – The Secret of Appreciation
So what is important for dads when it comes to Father's Day? It's easy for it to be reduced to gifts with few words - the classic cards and pressies on the usual masculine themes of sport, beer and gadgets. Refreshing the Parts Beer can't Reach... But what refreshes...
Mother’s Day – for Mens eyes Only
What does 'right' look like? I imagine up there are many men trying to get it right for mother’s day, whether for their own mum or for their partner who's a mum, where the children are too young to do it all themselves. So what does ‘right’ look like? Of course it...
Your Emotional History
A while back I spoke about feelings giving important information and feedback about what we personally need and don't need. Here I am going to help you reflect on your emotional history - what has been passed down the generations, what you might have learned about...
Coaching is like a Good Book
I was touched when a client recently shared that they felt our sessions together were like reading a good book. On exploration it was not any great aha moments or particular chapters, but more the quality of the relationship where they feel heard and responded to,...
Hating Valentines Day?
Are you hating Valentine’s Day or loving it? Maybe it doesn’t feel like something to celebrate for you right now? Perhaps you're single and wondering when you will share in this pleasure, or perhaps you're in a relationship but feel far from a Valentinesque paradise....
Reducing Christmas Stress and Bah Humbugishness
I know Christmas is supposed to be a lovely, happy time of year, but I tend to get a bit bah humbug in the build up to it, as it just seems to add lots of extra things to do and stress when I am already busy enough. This year felt like no exception with the...
Valuing and Managing our Emotion
Feelings are Information It is news to some of my clients that we are always feeling something and in turn that these feelings are important as they give us information and feedback about what we personally need and don't need. Our feelings themselves are neither good...